Saturday, January 26, 2013

Is Technology Helping Stalkers?

I am sure there is a study out there, somewhere, by someone, supporting this graph... See more of Ali and his (special) engineered drawings at Lets Graph.

Until next time... keep safe and sane...

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Abusive relationships hurt every Canadian

by Nevil Hunt

Health, legal and social services for women faced with abusive relationships cost taxpayers billions of dollars a year. But there's an even better reason to invest in prevention: it's the right thing to do.

Partner violence hurts. It hurts women and their children, and it hurts all of us indirectly.

How we react to this kind of abuse says a lot about our humanity.

If you think you're not affected, you need to see a study printed in Canadian Public Policy. Researchers at the University of British Columbia looked at all the costs associated with "intimate partner violence" and found each woman who needs help requires more than $13,000 annually in public and private spending.

The researchers then looked at the incidence of abuse and came up with a national price tag: $6.9 billion a year.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Risk Assessment - Free Online Tools

One of the best things I suggest to readers here is evaluate their situation and find precisely what the risks are if faced with threats, abuse, or simply experiencing strange interactions with a questionable person.

Although we can never predict what a stalker, psychopath or domestic abuser may do, we can at least discover their potential. There are a few ways to accomplish this.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

How to Report Stalkers to the Police: The Laws that Stalkers Love to Violate

Shortly before I retired from my former life back in Canada, and disappeared into Mexico, I worked as a legal assistant for a number of years. I actually find the law extremely fascinating, especially criminal law. I have had to deal a lot with police, professionally and personally, and I know what makes them tick, what gets them motivated. Today I am going to cover a little on the law, the notorious ones that stalkers violate, and how to present a strong case to the police.

So you have a psychopathic stalker or abuser in your life who will not drop dead or leave you alone. The police should do something about it, right? Here is what I recommend doing so that the police are compelled to take your case seriously.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

I am Fishead - The Movie


Every meaningful change starts with awareness. In our culture, we not only praise psychopaths in the highest positions of power, but in many cases, they became our role models. Challenge your beliefs! We have delved into the world of psychopaths and heroes and revealed something crucial about us.

Monday, October 10, 2011

Got a Stalker?

Thinking about what your options are?

Thanks Ali, for graphing it all out for us! You can find more of his fine work at

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Building Bridges With Narcissists

Is it possible to build a bridge with a narcissist and arrive at a win-win scenario?

The answer based on my experience: no.

Here is some insightful information on how it is like when dealing with a narcissist, using the analogy of building a bridge.

Friday, September 9, 2011

The Mask of Sanity

The Mask of Sanity: An Attempt to Clarify Some Issues About the So Called Psychopathic Personality
Imagine - if you can - not having a conscience, none at all, no feelings of guilt or remorse no matter what you do, no limiting sense of concern for the well-being of strangers, friends, or even family members. Imagine no struggles with shame, not a single one in your whole life, no matter what kind of selfish, lazy, harmful, or immoral action you had taken.

And pretend that the concept of responsibility is unknown to you, except as a burden others seem to accept without question, like gullible fools.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Why Couples Counseling (or Mediation) in Abusive Relationships Doesn’t Work

Source: Escape Abuse

Several people have asked about this and we’d like to address it in case any one of them - or anyone — is ever faced with this — or knows anyone who is faced with it.

If you are in any type of intimate relationship where there is abuse: verbal, emotional, psychological (ie: gaslighting, crazymaking), sexual, or physical — and the abuser suggests “couples” or “partners” counseling as a means to try to “work things out” or as an ultimatum to stay in the relationship - DON’T fall for it.

Monday, June 27, 2011

How to Spot a Sociopath

The Sociopath Next DoorI’m not a psychologist, but according to statistics, many verbal / emotional / physical abusers could also be socialized sociopaths - or at the very least, people with extremely narcissistic behavioral patterns.

I’d like to recommend an excellent book about Sociopaths called “The Sociopath Next Door” by Martha Stout, Ph.D.

Friday, June 24, 2011

Master Manipulators and What Makes Them Tick

This is an excerpt from where you can find writings by Kathy Krajco about the online book “What Makes Narcissists Tick” (available in its entirety HERE for free on

Kathy is very good at summarizing and clarifying the modus operandi of malignant narcissists.

You may ask why I post so much information on here about narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths. The answer is that many, if not most stalkers and abusers, have a mental disorder and it is often confusing to a victim or target to understand the reasons for their behavior. We need to know how we can better spot and identify these toxic people and better protect ourselves.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

How To Effectively Use "Strategic Emails" To Gain Evidence Against an Abuser

If you are in, or anticipate being in, a protracted legal situation with your abuser or tormentor, you may want to consider ceasing all communications that are either by telephone or in person - and solely deal with him (or her) by email or in writing.

Here is an excellent article on how to use your abuser and what he says (or does not) against him in court.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

How to Deal with a Vexatious Litigant or Legal Bully

Vexatious litigants and legal bullies are those who engage in legal proceedings without having a legitimate claim. They use the judicial process to annoy, harass or financially punish others.

Vexatious litigants can have a significant effect on the efficient function of the judicial system. They place undue strain on the Courts’ time and resources, which prevents other legitimate claims from being dealt with efficiently. In addition, they force unnecessary stress and expense on those faced with a vexatious claim. Even if the claim is vexatious, the person the claim is made against must still defend the claim or risk losing the case by default.

Even more troubling is that people faced with a vexatious claim may end up settling the vexatious claim to avoid the added expense of defending the matter further.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

The Stalker Stabilization Program

I know it may be difficult for some to believe, but in the United States, there is such a program for stalkers.

However, my first thought is whether or not it is truly effective and what the post-treatment statistics are. Secondly, what the core methods are that create a positive change in the stalker participants behaviours.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

If Your Stalker Ever Tries to Frame You...

One of the common ploys a stalker will use with their victims is to play a smoke-and-mirrors game. A harasser often will make false and unfound claims against people (even going so far as complaints against the police) - all in a ruse to get the attention focused off of them, and any suspicions onto the victim.

They may even try to frame you for something you never did or go as far as making false police claims that you are the one who is stalking them! The possibilities are endless.

Since a criminal will try anything to take the focus off of them as a possible suspect, be armed with evidence and ready to fight back if this happens to you. Eventually, once the truth emerges, the criminal harasser is brought down and their allegations crumble.

Friday, June 17, 2011

When Known Stalkers Kill, Should Police Pay?

In a case with sweeping implications, Bonnie Mooney is suing the RCMP for failing to stop her murderous partner.

Bonnie Mooney knew she had reason to be terrified of her violent, estranged common-law partner Roland Kruska. The problem was getting the RCMP to share her fear.

Now, with her best friend dead and her daughter maimed, Mooney is suing the RCMP and sparking debate: How much protection do police owe women who say they've been abused, stalked or targeted for attack?

Thursday, June 16, 2011

When Police Dismiss Your Complaints - What You Can Do

If you are completely dumbstruck as to why a police or law enforcement officer refuses to deal with your stalking, harassment or abuse complaint, there are ways to deal with it.

If they dismiss your complaints, they aren't investigating. If the complaints are persistent and there is no basis for them to refuse to investigate, then something's not right.

If your only option is to take matters into your own hands, then that's your only option. You can only do so much by the book. When doing things by the book doesn't work, you have two choices: 1) Do nothing and continue to be victimized; or 2) Do something and hope that justice prevails.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Stalker Profiles

If you have a stalker or harasser in your life, be assured there is a label for them and their stalking personality.

Here are a few of the countless types of stalkers out there...

Sunday, June 12, 2011

For Police: Best Practices in Stalking Investigations

Basics of law enforcement response and the early recognition of potential stalking cases are critical to aid in victims' safety. Many stalking cases do come to the attention of the police early in the stalking behaviors, and appropriate stalker interventions by law enforcement can often stop the stalking behaviors before serious crimes or injuries occur. However, not all cases are referred or readily identified through standard means or channels.

Law enforcement officers need to develop ways to identify these cases. By the time some stalking cases reach the attention of law enforcement or the courts, criminal offenses have already been committed that pose serious risks to the safety of the victims, and therefore require an affirmative response to reduce the risks for the victim.