As an avid reader, I usually turn to a book or guide for research to find what others have done to succeed or resolve their own issues.
Here is a compilation of excellent books and reading material that I strongly recommend reading if you have been stalked, harassed or abused.
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How to Be Invisible: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Personal Privacy, Your Assets, and Your Life (Revised Edition)
Sweeping changes since 9/11 have encroached upon personal privacy as never before. This new edition of J.J. Luna’s classic manual covers everything from driver’s licenses and pizza deliveries to anonymous ownership of vehicles and real estate.
FROM CYBERSPACE TO CRAWL SPACES, innovations in information gathering have left the private life of the average person open to scrutiny and, worse, exploitation. In this thoroughly revised update of his immensely popular guide How To Be Invisible, Revised Edition, J.J. Luna shows you how to protect yourself from these information predators by securing your vehicle and real estate ownership, your bank accounts, your business dealings, your computer files, your home address, and more.
J.J. Luna, a highly trained and experienced security consultant, shows you how to achieve the privacy you crave and deserve, whether you just want to shield yourself from casual scrutiny or take your life savings with you and disappear without a trace. Whatever your needs, Luna reveals the shocking secrets of private detectives and other seekers of personal information and then shows how to make a serious commitment to safeguarding yourself.
There is a prevailing sense in our society that true privacy is a thing of the past. Filled with vivid real-life stories drawn from the headlines and from Luna’s own consulting experience, How to Be Invisible, Revised Edition is a critical antidote to the privacy concerns that continue only to grow in magnitude as new and more efficient ways of undermining our personal security are made available. Privacy is a commonly lamented casualty of the Information Age and of the world’s changing climate – but that doesn’t mean you have to stand for it.
You can also download the free (original) version of How to Be Invisible (2000).
The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence
We all know there are plenty of reasons to fear people from time to time. The question is, when are those times? A stranger in a deserted parking lot offers to help carry a woman’s groceries. Is he a good Samaritan or is he after something else? A fired employee says, “you’ll be sorry.” Will be return with a gun? After their first date, a man tells a woman it is their “destiny” to be together. What will he do when she rejects him? A teenager is obsessed with “death metal” music and fascinated with guns. Is he going to kill someone? A mother has an uneasy feeling about the nice baby-sitter she’s just hired. Should she cancel her plans? A man is threatened by his girlfriend’s angry ex-husband. Should he go to the police?
Gavin de Becker, the nation’s leading expert on predicting violent behavior, proves in this book that we are all qualified to answer life’s highest-stakes questions. “True fear is a gift,” he says, because it is a survival signal that sounds only in the presence of danger; yet unwarranted fear has assumed a power over us that it holds over no other creature on earth. It need not be this way.
In this extraordinary, groundbreaking book, de Becker shows that you can already predict violent behavior. Through dozens of compelling stories from his own career, he lays out the pieces of the human violence puzzle and shows how you can solve it by paying attention to the subtle – and sometimes blatant – signals of intuition. As he says, “you can refuse to be a victim.”
Filled with unique and surprising insights into human behavior, The Gift of Fear will help you separate real from imagined danger, give you confidence in a sometimes threatening world, and make your life measurably safer.
You can visit Gavin de Becker & Associates and utilize their free online risk-assessment tool, known as MOSAIC. To learn more about de Becker, read my post Use Your Inner Arsenal and Do a Risk Assessment…
How to Stop a Stalker
Veteran Detective Mike Proctor explains how to identify a stalker, how they stalk and why they do it, what to do if you are being stalked, how to collect evidence, how to get the justice system on your side, and what to do in court.
If you are a victim of a stalker or suspect that you might be, this book will give you the means, not only to protect yourself, but ultimately to put the stalker behind bars. Veteran detective Mike Proctor, who has investigated and consulted on over 110 stalking cases (all of which have been successfully prosecuted), has written this essential survival guide for anyone who becomes the target of one of these sociopaths. Proctor lays out the typical patterns of stalker behavior: leaving bizarre gifts and notes; vandalism; surveillance; persistent contact through various means of harassment (phones, pagers, letters); breaking and entering, either to steal some personal item or just to let the victim know that his or her privacy has been violated: and a host of other nuisance tactics, including harassment of family members and family pets, filing legal actions, disrupting utility services, and threats of violence.
With his wealth of experience, Proctor offers keen insights into the pathological mindset of the stalker. For example, stalking problems often arise in a situation of domestic violence; many stalkers are fantasy driven, often believing that the victim is in love with them; they rarely take responsibility for their actions, blaming others for making them do what they do; most have stalked more than one person; and revenge by disgruntled employees against a business associates or employers is also an increasingly common motive in stalking.
This excellent handbook on a serious social problem will be of great use to current or potential stalking victims, law enforcement officials, personnel departments, and employers.
Surviving a Stalker: Everything You Need To Know To Keep Yourself Safe
Most people believe that stalkers only target the rich and famous, not the average citizen. The truth is, stalking is one of the most prevalent, yet overlooked, form of domestic violence in the world today, with an estimated 1.4 million people (in America alone) who are stalked annually. And that figure does not include the rising number of people continually harassed on the Internet.
Surviving A Stalker, the ultimate practical guidebook to surviving stalking, provides all the necessary tools you need to handle obsessive attention and to regain control of your life. Journalist and stalking expert Linden Gross offers a wealth of invaluable guidance, including how to recognize and control those natural reactions that might put you at risk. Learn how to handle inappropriate attention, both on and off-line, and break the stalking cycle. Discover ways to protect your privacy and safety, as well as that of your loved ones.
Gross explains how these dangerous obsessions begin, the patterns they take, and what potential victims can do before the nightmare becomes a reality. Though a multitude of case studies, you will gain a clearer understanding of the crime of stalking, the toll it takes, and how to handle it.
Surviving A Stalker will help all victims, as well as potential victims, keep themselves safe and be a vital resource for all professionals who counsel them. You can also visit LindenGross.com for more information.
Dark Souls: Healing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships
Dark Souls is an absolute must-read for those stuck in an abusive or unwanted relationship. The author, Sarah Strudwick, provides well-researched (clinical information) on the various types of personalities who stalk and abuse others, and uses her own personal story as an example of how she has identified and dealt with a narcissistic sociopath.
Instead of remaining in the victim-role, Sarah found the various means to overcome the spell of repeatedly being abused; she shares with readers the numerous tools and techniques to resolve being pursued and harassed by an unwanted and toxic person.
This book provides a complete paradigm-shift in how we can handle the epidemic of stalking and harassment by looking towards ourselves and changing our own behaviours towards them. One of the best books on stalking I have read to-date.
Based out of the UK, Sarah authors a number of excellent articles, providing victims and survivors with many resources, including posts on her Blog, her Dark Souls website, recovery assistance at Butterfly Effect Healing, as well as providing people with insight at No Ordinary Life.
The Psychology of Stalking
The Psychology of Stalking (edited by J. Reid Meloy) is the first scholarly book on stalking ever published. Virtually every serious writer and researcher in this area of criminal psychopathology has contributed to this comprehensive resource.
The chapters within the book explore stalking from social, psychiatric, psychological, legal, and behavioral perspectives. New thinking and data are presented on threats, pursuit characteristics, psychiatric diagnoses, offender – victim typologies, cyberstalking, false victimization syndrome, erotomania, stalking and domestic violence, stalking of public figures, and many more aspects of stalking. This landmark text is of interest to both professionals and other thoughtful individuals who recognize the serious nature of this ominous social behavior at the end of the millennium.
If you can recommend other books (or articles) that have helped you survive and overcome stalking, harassment or abuse, please write a comment below.