If You Are Being Stalked…


If you are being stalked, the first thing you have to realize is that the police cannot, in reality, come to your aid. It is difficult for the police to prove a stalking case, and even if they do have evidence, it is unlikely that the prosecutor will waste much time, money and resources on cases that are difficult to prove.

Prosecutors are rated on the amount of cases, or the percentage of cases, they win. Not on their decision to protect the public. The prosecutor may be willing, but this does not improve his or her job rating.

Basically the justice system eliminates prosecutors who take on difficult cases and lose. As a result, there is oftentimes a low conviction rate for stalking and criminal harassment.

A stalking scenario is the penultimate case in difficulty to prove because the police think they have more important and more violent criminals to investigate. They also have limited resources, budgets, time and insight into stalking.

No one can understand, if they have never been stalked themselves, what it is like to BE stalked.

So essentially, you have to take matters into your own hands and accept that the legal system is not always your friend in these types of situations.

Saying that, if you have a stalker, the first thing you should do is get a restraining order.

If you suspect that your decision to take out a restraining order will escalate the situation, then hire a private detective or personal security. They will monitor the situation, better than the police can, and gather evidence on your behalf.

When you suspect that the stalker has been violating the restraining order, the private detective can turn over evidence to the police to make this a more prosecutable case (because a restraining order exists). They can take pictures of the stalker violating the restraining order, they can act on your behalf as a credible witness, and ideally, serve as your personal protection. This is precisely what the rich and famous do to deter stalkers and win stalking cases.

With this evidence, the police can approach the prosecutor with clear evidence that a previous court order has been violated. This is a case that the prosecutor can win, because of the existing court order in place. Thus you can get a measure of justice out of the judicial system.

But in many cases, it may not be sufficient to keep the stalker from stalking you.

If whatever penalty that the stalker receives does not deter him (or her, not to be gender biased), you have to accept the fact the only way you are going to rid yourself of this person, is to escape.

In the age of the internet you must drop all your social networking sites and change them to something that is more difficult for the stalker to access. You might have to change these networking sites every six months, depending on how determined the stalker is. Use aliases or pseudonyms if you can.

Develop three different email addresses – one for friends, one for family and one for business. Others for new online friends or acquaintances if need be.

Pick a location in the world that you think you will like, and go there to live. Before you leave, explain to friends and family why you are doing what you are doing, and promise them that you will reconnect with them as soon as you feel safe. But do not tell anybody – even family and friends – where you are going. Your location can be unwittingly revealed to the stalker in a simple keystroke on your computer or a tapped telephone call.

I know that this is a difficult undertaking, but this is the only way you can deter a person who is psychopathically determined to have you.

This move is especially important if you suspect that the stalker might turn violent or is unpredictable. The position you are in already is likely untenable. There are few options available to the stalked person that will actually work.

I know that you have to give up your friends, family, your job, and everything that you consider important in your life but you have to understand when there are drastic people in your life, you have to take drastic measures. The single most important thing is that you survive.

Everybody’s decision is going to be different, but after being stalked myself, I realize the only option is to isolate myself from the stalker and make it as difficult as possible for him to find me.

Most stalkers will get bored or lose interest if they cannot easily find you. This does not mean that some stalkers will use all of their available resources to find you, including use of the resources and efforts of others.

There is simply too much information on most individuals in the western world that cannot somehow be accessed by computer or a telephone call. The classic example of this situation is the person who hacked into the State of Connecticut health records, then demanded $10,000,000 million dollars to return said medical records.

The stalkers have an advantage that didn’t exist before the age of the internet. Because of this, its hard for an individual to simply disappear or be hidden.

If it is possible that you can enlist the aid of someone to help hide you, then that option should be explored. This will allow you to maintain contact to those who are important in your life, and at the same time, isolate you from the stalker. It has to be someone, or an agency, that you can trust 125%.

To all those victims of stalking or psychopaths, I wish you luck, perserverance, and a safe life ahead of you.



  1. steven and frank steiner on

    We are a gay couple of 28 years who have been gang stalked for 12 years since 2005 by my neighbor , former bully and who had sex with me when I was underage and also raped my sister when she was 14 years old. They are Rueben and vicki Peterson there 2 daughters heather and nichole Peterson of pelkie Michigan . Also jerrys auto next door to my parents home jerry manninen and his employees friends . My emf detector goes off when pointed to his junk yard, I have recorded from inbetween the 2 buildings emf constant signals to our house from outside, and to where my fathers chair is and my mothers back on her couch , she now has alzhiemers and demntia he has had brain cancer and a tumor removed from this radiation constantly being pumped into our home . they are killing me with this on me night and day and I need to get this out there so they can be held responsible for our illnesses and DEATH, slow torturing death day and night, mu husband has had 2 heart attacks since being here as caregivers to my folks, my sister KIM COLE is also involved with the petersons and manninens. I feel I will die soon from this as this has been 12 years, thru many many states having to sell every home where we thought we would settle for a nice life but petersons tracked us and and got thoe whole towns gang stalking us as well and local police departments with there lies, I AM BEING MURDERD BY MY CHILDHOOD BULLY BECAUSE HE SCREWED ME IN THE ASS AND HIS WIFE FOUND OUt

  2. I think we really are or were in a same situation. I, too, considered escaping. I considered selling the apartment I live and escaping. But as for now, I’m also afraid that he might find me wherever I am. And I am a law student – I really wish to pursue law as my career and do I really have to give up my dream because of one person?

    I’m torn between these two options.

    Anyway, I wish you safety and sanity. Good luck, my friend..

  3. Annette Laughlin on

    I can’t prove I’m stalked And sexually harassed threw the walls. My neighbor’s make my life a living hell. Can’t afford to hire a private detective… If I could I would definitely file a cival Law suit. For bullying sexual harassment sexual harassment going on. I’m stalked 24/7. And bullies they live like a Queen come and know can stop this sick person. And they say stalkers are treated with a misdemeanor. And shame on that.Stalkers are mentally ill people and like say prove and when I do and I file a cival Law suit for damages. This stalking essculated to a higher new level. They think they above the law.

  4. The SAD TRUTH IS this holds contradictory and unlawful info to those being stalked. It admits with technology one can always be traced, but suggests you disappear. If stalking victims COULD disappear they would. That is NOT possible nowadays even if one tries to get off the grid. I won’t go into all the details but research artificial intelligence, implants, satellites. Also research TARGETED INDIVIDUALS, ORGANIZED STALKING, GANGSTALKING. There is a WAR going on stalking innocent people for money by communities globally.

  5. Good grief, is this supposed to be comforting to people looking for help? Do you have any idea how hard it is to up and MOVE because you’re being stalked? YES, I DO, I HAD TO DO IT ONCE. It was a nightmare. Not everyone can do this. Most people can’t do this. Finding stuff like this — “oh, you just have to leave everything” — when you are scared and looking for help, is infuriating. Geez, why didn’t you just recommend they find a way to kill the stalker? It would be about as practical.

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