How To Effectively Use “Strategic Emails” To Gain Evidence Against an Abuser


If you are in, or anticipate being in, a protracted legal situation with your abuser or tormentor, you may want to consider ceasing all communications that are either by telephone or in person – and solely deal with him (or her) by email or in writing.

Here is an excellent article on how to use your abuser and what he says (or does not) against him in court.

Dr. Reena Sommer & Associates


Although most anyone who is visiting this or any other website has the necessary skills and experienced needed to send and receive email, only few know how to effectively use emails in a strategic way during divorce and custody litigation. Even though the actual process involved seems rather simple, developing emails that will generate the evidence that is needed does take a lot of skill.

The following are the steps involved in strategic emails:


The first step in generating effective strategic emails is for your divorce consultant to gain a clear and complete understanding of your case. This generally involves one or two telephone consultations with the client and very often, one consultation will include the client’s attorney as well. During these consultations, relevant history and issues pertaining to the case are discussed. By the end of the consultations, clear goals for the use of strategic emails are established and a plan of action evolves.


If there has already been email correspondence between the spouses, it is important that these email exchanges are reviewed. The purpose of reviewing existing emails is to establish their tone and content. In that way, we can be sure that subsequent emails do not stray too much in style and form as to raise the suspicion from the other spouse.


Once the preliminary work is complete, we then begin the process of determining what to include in the initial email draft. The initial drafted email is then carefully reviewed and edited to insure that both the content and tone are correct. Once the client is satisfied with the final email, he or she sends it off.


When a response from the other spouse is received, it is reviewed and further strategic emails are drafted based on the model just described.


The format of strategic emails are generally kept very brief – usually four to ten sentences. Keeping the strategic emails brief, also keeps them focused and limits opportunities for the content to be used against you. The principle of “less is more” guides this process.

Keeping emails brief also ensures that the recipient does not misunderstand their intent or content. Longer emails tend to result in issues being selectively ignored. It is also worth noting that even if a spouse fails to respond to the email or does not address the issues being raised, this too consitutes “evidence” – for example, evidence of uncooperativeness.

Finally, and most importantly, any email drafted by a divorce consultant always keeps one important thing in mind: Although directed toward the other spouse, the strategic emails’ audience is the court or anyone associated with the divorce proceedings such as attorneys, GALs, mediators or custody evaluators.

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Everyone’s concerns are unique. For that reason, Dr. Reena Sommer offers a brief “no obligation” telephone consultation. Please call her with your questions and concerns at (281) 534-3923


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